What’s Self-Care and Why Bother?

self care | Darcie Brown, San Diego Therapist

If you already have a self-care practice, that’s awesome! If you don’t, or have no idea what I’m even talking about, read on and then get started on creating your own practice!


What is Self-Care?

Self-care literally means taking care of yourself. It sounds really basic, and it can be, except that so many of us – probably every one of us at one time or another – do not adequately create the space for ourselves. And if we do, it might be here or there, we have time, and it’s probably not intentional.

If you’re not sure self-care might look like for you, consider this: What do you do to relax, recharge, and renew your spirit? What things make you feel happy, whole, and fulfilled?


Why Bother?

Given how busy the average American is, we need to be intentional about finding time to care for ourselves.

But, for so many people, things get in the way of a regular self-care practice – work, kids, obligations, time with family and friends. Others might not believe they are worthy of such a practice, or simply, don’t know what self-care looks like.

Maybe some of these resonate with you, or maybe you are coming up with your own reasons right now.

But consider the airplane analogy: you have to put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others. Because if you can’t breath, you can’t help someone else breath.

Now, apply this to your everyday life. If you are run ragged and your tank is on empty, do you think you’re giving your partner, friends, family, work your best effort?

Probably (definitely) not.

In order to show up for your partner, friends, family, at work, and most importantly, YOURSELF, you need to be taking active steps regularly to work on YOU.


How to Get Started

First, take some time to reflect on whether or not you have any current self-care practices. If so, what are they? Are the sufficient? Can you add any additional ones?

Then, create a routine. Having a routine is the best way to ensure that you make the time for self-care. If you say, I’ll get to self-care if I have the time, you may never find the time.

Be sure to start small, especially if you get easily overwhelmed. Try scheduling one activity for self-care a week for a couple weeks and see how that goes. If you’re following through, add another one.

If you’re struggling to follow through, consider what’s getting in the way. As I mentioned earlier, beliefs about worthiness might come up for some. For others, like parents, you just might struggle to find the time. But even 15 minutes is better than nothing, right?

Consider this your call to create a self-care practice. Even if it’s hard at first, trust me, when your mind, body, and soul feel recharged, you’ll realize it’s worth it.



Disclaimer: The information offered on this website/blog is not, nor is it intended to be, therapy or psychological advice, nor does it constitute a client/therapist relationship. Please consult a mental health provider for individual support regarding your own personal health and well-being. Information on how to find a local therapist can be found on the resources tab.

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